I'll never forget the birth of my baby boy. I can remember the moment I was told I had to be induced due to complications, the lighting, the music playing while I laboured, the view out my window, the hallway I walked down, stopping for each contraction, the Swiss ball I bounced on, the colour of the room, the faces of the nurses, my midwife and her suggestions, the feeling of birthing him, the face on my husband as he handed me our son, the doctors checking in on us, the hospital food, the struggle to breastfeed, the cries as an NGT tube was inserted to feed him, his first bath, the parking space we pulled out of taking home our boy.....I can remember it all.
Is it possible to preserve marital intimacy and rekindle romance after baby arrives? In 'And Baby Makes Three' John and Julie Gottman address these issues by teaching skills needed to maintain healthy marriages so partners can avoid the pitfalls of parenthood by:
- Focusing on intimacy and romance
- Replacing an atmosphere of criticism and irritablilty with one of appreciation
- Preventing postpartum depression
- Creating a home environment that nurtures physical, emotional and mental health, as well as cognitive and behavioral development of your baby
It usually pays off to be prepared, so I do just that when packing my doula bag. It's packed and ready to go - all I need to throw in are a few snacks and a fresh bottle of water and then I'm off and running.
How do we still walk around thinking that we are not enough? Not tall enough, short enough, fit enough, skinny enough, healthy enough, smart enough, brave enough, courageous enough, mom enough?